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A Kiss is Just a Kiss. Or, Is It?

How did it happen that their lips came together? How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill? A kiss, and all was said.
~Victor Hugo

Is a kiss just a kiss? I bet everyone remembers their first kiss, the first time they kissed their partner, the anticipation and the excitement. Well, there’s a lot of power in your pucker. Kissing plays an important role in relationships.

“The more that people kiss, the more they’re able to communicate on a romantic level” says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing.

In midlife healthy relationships, kissing is an important key to keeping that connection alive and continuing to ignite the passion in a long term relationship. A kiss can be “quick, dry and forgettable” or “hot, moist and memorable”.

I say make each kiss memorable. How you ask…

You should put your whole body into your kiss. Your lips should let your partner know how much you love them and your hands should hold your partner tight, like you’ll never let go.

Find ways to keep kissing fresh and new all the time. Try soft kisses on the neck, up the ear and over to the lips, alternating locations and pressure. A simple gesture of putting your hand behind your partners neck and tugging their hair adds passion and makes for one hot kiss.

While kissing, focus on the kiss not what might happen after the kiss. Yes, it’s true that kissing can be the precursor to action in the bedroom (and, a healthy sex life is important), but a great kiss is a mutual focus and an expression of the love you have for each other.

So often, couples in long term relationships stop kissing and lose a very important intimate connection. I read an April 2011 Redbook poll that stated “79% of women said they don’t kiss their husbands nearly as much as they’d like.” To me, a kiss is a powerful relationship glue that gets stronger over time.

Just because you’ve been together for a long time doesn’t mean you can’t have steamy make-out sessions. Go ahead, surprise your partner tonight and remember to focus on the kiss and not what might come next.

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